Selling Jesus

My spirit has been completely in a “wad” for I guess what feels like forever now, over the selling of Jesus & the loneliness with people when they accept the invite. I have read more books & blogs,viewed more pod casts on this subject & sadly know more people in the muck of this, than I care to even mention. I hate mentioning it because it’s become too common in the modern, American church circle. It’s what I’ve coined the corral syndrome. Corral ’em in & once they get in & get comfy, we don’t grow them from there. We offer everything within the budget & manpower to make “our place” attractive, so if they don’t sign up for  our attractions, it’s their fault. The offer was open to everyone.

We just sit & wait for every new/old church attendee or every newbie in their salvation to be falling all over themselves to join the Life Groups, Women Groups, Men’s Groups, Kids Programs, Coffee on Tuesday Morning Groups, etc etc. And thankfully some do……then fade away. And some just never do & we’re left with a handful of exhausted, worn out, core people who’ve ultimately nicknamed themselves the 80/20’s. (ie. 20% doing 80% of the work).

I can tell you what I know & feel to be the heart of this issue & heart of the problem; there is NO HEART. Now before the stones fly, let me elaborate. The function of the heart keeps us alive; it’s where find love. Where there is love, there are relationships, passion, compassion, truth, humility, sacrifice. There isn’t busyness, tiredness, lack of core friendships. There’s growth because there’s a heart lined up in love for all of the right reasons, focused on loving the right people. If you want someone to develop their spiritual gifts & use them in church, in the community & for the kingdom, help them grow them. People can’t use what they don’t understand. We as Christians didn’t accept salvation & boom boom have all the answers. Especially adult Christians, new to all of this. It’s hard & it’s confusing. Not everyone will ask to have those questions answered, because it’s also intimidating. Some people are introverted, some are extroverted, but confusion & loneliness are obvious universals that people wear the same, especially where being relational with God is concerned.

If people reach out to you for any reason, in email, text, calls or even standing face to face, RESPOND. When you do not take the time to respond, react, reply or make individuals you call friend, feel like a friend or feel loved, they will leave. Any relationship, be it in church, outside church, a relationship with Jesus, whomever, needs time for growth. It needs fed, watered & nourished from ALL facets of the church family. Not just on Sunday & not just when we need volunteers. If you want leaders to emerge from the ashes, then take the time to grow these friendships, then you will find your hearts on fire. You cannot expect people will instantly sign up for anything the church offers, when they feel alone/lonely/isolated/confused. Especially, if they’ve reached out & have been ignored & overlooked. It almost comes off as this, “I can’t remember the last time I paid attn to you, or asked you over for coffee or took time to know you & what your life is all about, BUT I’m really stressin cause we don’t have anyone to take over the so & so project, so ‘er yeah, God placed you on my heart to do this….wanna help me? And after you do, I’ll say thanks & go back to ignoring you again because well you know, I’M BUSY, but you understand that right? Cause we are ALL so busy these days. You know? You do know? K. Thanks.” 

I am sure that rubs someone the wrong way. Irritates. Maybe causes you to root your rear ends in your seat a little. Maybe stings. Maybe you’re judging me right now. Or maybe you are the person this is happening to or this has happened to & you’re hurt. You’re frustrated this on appearance, friendly, warm, happy, loving, body of Jesus, sold you Jesus, they sold you their church, you’re tired, your heart is heavy, you need prayer, you need a friend & you can’t reach out anymore. You’re exhausted with it. Bringing it up one more time causes you to look needy & weird & clingy. So you withdraw & guess what, still nobody notices. Then you stop attending & guess what, nobody contacts you. And yep you were right again, church sucks. Not God, but the church. Anybody feeling me here???

Some times the least of these, the broken, the malnourished in Spirit & life are church members. Not these “lost wandering unbelievers.” Those right next to you that we pass with a lukewarm smile & semi embracing hug during the Sunday morning meet & greet. The church has a message of Jesus, but not a message of relationships that mirrors Jesus. I cannot imagine emailing Jesus for his advice on something or texting him (can you believe I’d text Jesus, so 2013) & He never responds in ANY response whatsoever, because He was busy or because I am longed winded & annoying. Because instead of seeing I am growing, I need fed, I get shuffled off & forgotten.  But, that day He spent a significant amount of time on Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, He texted & called his peeps all day about things like, how tired He is from being so busy & other stuff that’s keeping him busy, He watched some TV, He looked to see what may be on sale to make His house look nice, He perused Amazon for some more books about growing the church & being a great leader/parent/friend/follower, He walked around some stores when He didn’t have His kids with Him, He scheduled his next guys night/date night/couple date night/family group night…..but He juuuust couldn’t find 5 minutes to share himself with me. The one whose heart is on fire. The one who spent years avoiding church, because people ruin church. But, NOT this one, it’s different & now it doesn’t appear to be very different. Somebody knows this-

If this is you, then I want you to know from the pit of my soul, I am sorry this has happened to you. I am sorry if I allowed this to happen to you. I am sorry the church as a whole has done this crap to you. I am sorry for the cliques & the isolation. I am sorry you feel like you have something to prove to the church, rather than Jesus. I am sorry because I feel you. I get you. It’s THE most painful thing to experience & you or anyone else, should NOT  know that type of emptiness that accompanies salvation. Yes, we depend solely on God, but before we can know what that means, we need hands & feet & arms that will wrap us up & help grow us. People need to know people care. So today please know whoever you are, I care & I will be praying for you. Jesus cares. And I pray for all of those who are standing there while people are turning away….grab them. If you are leaving churches, I pray you have another one that will house you like a home. Don’t quit Jesus because you’re hurting. You can quit a lot of things, but that is the worst choice you will ever make. Praying for you friends……..

{John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends} Can you even imagine a world of glory if people actually felt this way for everyone, not just those they chose; those who made them secure within the boundaries of their comfort zones?

“Jesus was a poor & humble servant. He was homeless. He wasn’t flashy & fancy. He had a clear message. Go make disciples. Give up & sacrifice it ALL to make disciples. Anyone. Everyone. The Jesus we sell today, does not line up with the Jesus in the word. Who cares what the church “looks” like if we are not changing & transforming lives. Anything less than this is cheap salvation. It’s time to stop faking church & baby talking & baby sitting spoiled Christians who feel entitled. We are not building micro kingdoms. What’s happening is the attractional church only attracts other Christians; we’re “reshuffling” the kingdom” – Jen Hatmaker

It’s time to grow from the inside out. Not just bringing the outside in. That will come when God says it’s time, not when we we force it. Jesus started with 12, not 12 thousand. Remember that y’all.




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