My husband & I were talking last night about a particular kind of people. I brought those thoughts into today & wanted to share, because 10 out of 10 people I know, either have a line of these individuals in their lives or possibly you could be the actual group of offenders, so please reflect on that when you’re done reading this, if you would.
The group I’m speaking of is the kind of people who blatantly, attack you or your family, for no other reason than lack of self control. You take the response of silence. Forgiveness. You don’t retaliate, you don’t say/do/respond in the way you wish the good Lord & the police force would allow…..you do the ‘right thing’.
Their response? Self consumed rage. They allow self talk to continue to make an enemy out of you who, A. didn’t do anything to start with or cause the problem B. you even kept your mouth shut (you have the indented teeth marks on the tongue to show)
They continue a cycle of gossip, whether audibly or in their thought lives. They decide you aren’t likable. Your walk with Christ is a joke. Your posts are bull. They can’t stand your kids….I mean they can’t even look at your life through the silly cannon of social networking without feeling rage or bitterness. And don’t get me started on the fury & inside judging if they do or ever do actually see or deal with you in person. So what do you think is wrong with someone who behaves like this? Why should you/we/I continue to eat poop off a spoon at their expense for a thing that isn’t even our faults? Why does the high road feel more like a valley?
Well…. I don’t have the answer for them in a nutshell because we all assume grown people should know better. But, I have the answer for you. It’s hard. It is something you have to drop at God’s feet more than a million times. It sucks. And it’s extremely unfair in the moral, fleshly view of things. But, once you realize in your soul that normal, happy, content people do NOT go around destroying the lives or character of others, then you can start to look at people who behave this way with sympathy. Only then can you start to pray routinely for them vs wanting to beat the stew out of them. (come on, you were all thinking it & feeling it, I just said it)
Slowly….trust me on the slowly part, achingly slowly- your heart will feel & churn a bit differently & you’ll see them for what they really are deep down inside….miserable, damaged, broken, alone, sad. And that’s truly, truly the saddest way to live. Neither you nor me should ever feel satisfaction when when we see these people spiraling out of control & eventually receive their discipline for the behavior they push out onto others. Without healing that day is coming for them because The Lord Your God Fights For You! Remember, at some point whatever created this in them, they didn’t deserve it either, but unlike you, they lost their way & their esteem somewhere in life.
I encourage you today to pray for them. As hard as that is, understand that hurting people hurt others. Continue to press into God. They may never change or want to change, but every prayer you deposit on their behalf peels layer after layer back of love & peace in your own life. It’s truly a blessing to watch storms swirl all around you & you remain standing in the eye of it all; unshaken. You may be hurt, you may feel anger, but you will find God will give replacement emotions almost instantly. Clench your hand in His. You may see only 1 set of footprints during those times of injustice, but that’s all you ever need.
If you are the hurting person who falls into the above description of sabotage to self & others, please know that just because people don’t advertise all of their battles openly, we’re all still fighting them. Maybe that person you’re throwing gasoline on, then lighting the proverbial match, just maybe THAT person could be the friend, the encouragement you need to get out of your pit. Maybe you’re blinded by their goodness because you crave that type of content life & have no idea how to wake up & obtain it. Apologize to them. Apologize to God. And go get yourself healed. How many more days will you live smothered & in chains, bound to things that have oppressed the wonderful person you really could & should be?
For who, besides me, needed to know::: we’re all in this thing together! Let’s pray each other up today. Be blessed y’all!